We here at ish are excited about FILMish and ish 2.0, which will be a major revamp of this site, which has been promised all spring. But despite our work towards that new future, there’s still more to share along the way before this format migrates to the upcoming ish Facebook page, and this site holds more substantial material to share with our community.
Too many times we as humans get so focused on the future, that we look back to realise the wasted past moments. It’s always good to remember Tolle’s teachings about the power of the present, and to never forget to apply it to our daily lives. I (Damon), have studied this concept for many years, but it wasn’t until early last month that it REALLY hit home for me to the point that I’m almost-always aware of the present reality as a child is, living away from fear, expectation, or negativity about the past (including my previous quip about regrets over wasted time 🙂 )
The ancient Greeks may’ve lived by the maxim, “Carpe Diem” (Seize the Day), but I encourage you to Seize the Moment (“Carpe Temporis Punctum”)!
So Happy-Friday-Summer everyone! It’s up to you to claim what’s good, HERE and NOW!!
Damon here! When I saw this Friday night, I KNEW I had to share it here on ish. It’s only a few minutes long, but VERY motivational. Happy new week everyone!!
Hi there Damon and all of our awesome readers.
I wanted to take just a moment to talk about some things that make me go Aaaaaaa!!!! Some days are just scream out loud Aaaaaaaa days!
I have been a mother for 15 years. People are always shocked when they find out that I have a 15 year old… no I didn’t get pregnant in high school, I just happen to look young still. Perhaps it’s my “lack-of-sleep” fatigued eyes that gives me that “she-must-be-in-college” look. I would love to tell you that I was up all night cramming for an important exam or completing an amazingly insightful project but the truth is I just look haggard because…well, I am! (I will admit that I was delighted when I was carded lately. I was more than happy to show my drivers license and even happier when she said “You just look really young.” I’ll take what I can get.)
Children are great. They are smart, funny, kind, thoughtful, and even sometimes charming. They are also messy, loud, lazy, and will sometimes run down the hall with a fork chasing the puppy (while you are typing on your blog even…). There are days when I look at them in amazement and think I am SO very lucky to get to share my life with these gifts that are my children…well, moments really, not days. And there are times when it takes all of my strength not to hop a plane to the nearest anywhere that’s not here! Nothing makes me go Aaaaaaaaaa more than my children. They are the most frustratingly angelic things in my life.
I will also say what makes me go Aaaaaaaa is personal growth. Why on earth does it have to be so painful? I do tend to learn from the school of hard knocks but I’ve really been trying to grow and learn as an individual the past few years. I will say that I have learned a lot and that I can never go back to where I was knowing the things that I know and understand now. But growth is not easy. Definitely earns an Aaaaaaaa!!
TOO BUSY definitely gets an Aaaaaaa mark from me! I’m so tired of being so busy. Now you say that I have brought it all upon myself and you would be correct. I have five children ages 3-15 so naturally I am going to be busy at this point in my life just taking care of them and their needs. I also have a house and a yard to keep up. But all of the other stuff is just stuff. I have never been so frustrated as I have been this year with public schools! Everything is a fundraiser and a competition. Are children even learning anymore? There are more forms to sign for this and that and more homework being handed out than ever before. Sometimes I just want to say screw this and move to a beach somewhere in some little village where we can all just subsist day-to-day and enjoy each other again. Life is too busy, and while it is up to me to say “no” and to keep it as simple as possible, it still gets a big Aaaaaaa from me.
Judgmental people get a big Aaaaaaa too! We are all hypocrites when it comes to judging others. I was accused a few months ago of judging unfairly and was told that I am the very thing I claim to hate. Touche. And ouch. Tis true I’m afraid. As much as I try to be open, honest, and compassionate, there are people who get under my skin so much that I am very biased in the way I treat them. It is difficult to remember that everyone struggles with certain things and that…wait for it….LIFE ISN’T FAIR…much to my daily chagrin. I am a work in progress in all areas of life and am most especially working on this big Aaaaaaaa!!
Cleaning. Cleaning. Cleaning. Let me put down my dust rag and broom to type this paragraph. I realize that the aforementioned five children have something to do with the endless cleaning but seriously! I co-wrote a book called CUT THE CRAP! for heavens sake! I know how to organize and clean and am very good at both. I have decided that I am far too outnumbered to even worry about it anymore. I clean a little bit each day. My children do their chores. My house may at any given time have toy cars lined up all along the floor, there will surely be a mess from the latest snack in the kitchen, dirty footprints adorn my floors and sticky fingerprints the walls. So what? Does this mean that I never clean? No. It means that I’m tired. If it bothers you then come visit when they all move out. Until then I try to ignore that the laundry is never done and the bathrooms just can’t stay shiny. Look at the woman in these pictures. She looks happy to be cleaning. How very “whistle-while-you-work”. It’s 2013..can we just be honest now? I don’t always smile while I clean. Aaaaaaaa!!
Lastly, I will say this. My name is Marisa, and I have Bipolar 2. And everything I just said is harder for me than for a person who functions without a disorder. I have ups and downs and sometimes it is too much. I want to dedicate this post to all of us who have Aaaaaaa moments, but especially to all of those mothers out there who have biploar disorder. You are my heroes.
“Calm down, Crazy.”
This is my favorite of many oh-so-loved lines from the movie Silver Linings Playbook. I felt drawn to go see this movie and after reading what it was about I understood why. It is about a man who struggles with mental illness (bipolar in this case) and how he lives life with the ups and downs and tries to find a silver lining. The most wonderful thing this movie does is shows that all of us are crazy on some level. His friends and family do things that are questionable also but since he’s the mentally ill person they think they are “normal”. For those of us who have a mental illness or who have a family member who suffers with one, this film can really speak to us.
The director, David O. Russell, has a son with a mood disorder and feels it is very important to remove the ignorance and stigma associated with mental illness. AMEN! I can’t tell you the number of times that I have tried to help others understand that people aren’t “crazy” just because they have a disorder. When you have a heart condition and you take medicine no one treats you like a leper; when you take insulin for diabetes no one shuns you, but when you have a mental illness images of asylums and white coats come into play and people move away.
It can be difficult to have a person with bipolar (or other mental illness) in your life, but if you love them and are willing to learn and work, the benefits are very rewarding. I want to write an entire post about this later because I believe that raising awareness is the key to end ignorance, but lets see what you have to say…
A very Happy Friday to you!
Yes, it’s a sad-state when people shrink away from those who’ve received diagnoses of mental disorders, as if it’s any “less than” some other handicaps that afflict some. As I mentioned to you the other day, it’s truly astounding that in the 21st century our common understanding and judgments against such disorders are so very-off in many regards, and that those who can’t completely fit “in the box”, whether that be in traditional roles or expectations are shunned and rejected entirely, often to the detriment of relationships within a whole network of loved-ones.
What I love about Silver Linings Playbook is that it so-well captures the heart and essence surrounding the struggle that those with depression, mania, or affective disorders often undergo. We talk a lot on here about the very-effective healing energy modalities such as EFT and the Healing Codes, but even for people who may not be open to such routes, there are very practical methods available for those avoiding the largely-negative side-effects of poisoning drugs such as Lithium. I’ve heard that very good practical success comes with Chinese herbs in tablet form, such as these here.
You’ve also told me that in your own research that proper diet (including avoiding certain key foods), regular exercise, plenty of regular water intake, appropriate sleep amounts, and doing as much as-possible to reduce daily stress-triggers, such as limiting exposure to toxic relationship cycles, all help stabilise and allow for a “normal” plateau to expand from.
It is heart-breaking how many relationships are negatively affected due to the lack of understanding about mental illnesses. People used to be locked away or mocked. As we learn more, we do better. Seizures used to be looked upon as one having a devil. Now they can be treated with medication or at least recognized for what they really are. It can be difficult to accept that a disorder is a part of your life, let alone to ask others to support you through it. I will post more about this later. It’s close to me and I hope that by some of the things I say someone will be helped, understood, and supported. My wish is that those afflicted and those close to them will see the light through the darkness.
Step Out of the Box! Get informed! Here are a few quick reads:
Judy Marshall, Ph.D. writes a short and simple article called: MENTAL ILLNESS: Stigma and Reality
Logan Noone speaks out about his bipolar disorder, inspiring many.
Check out this Bipolar Quiz. It’s very well done and may help you recognize things in yourself or others.
Or just start here and let it lead you to more: Wiki
Damon here again: Silver Linings Playbook hits Blu Ray and DVD Apr. 1st in the UK markets, and Apr. 30 in the States (US viewers may want to get the jump and import the UK disc if you’re not willing to wait the extra month and have a player that supports the Region coding).
Lent. I didn’t grow up in a religion that practices it, but something about Lent appeals to me. The idea of giving something up from Ash Wednesday to Maundy Thursday proves to me that I CAN control myself, that I can sacrifice, that I am stronger my physical urges. There is something fresh about the whole thing. (Perhaps I’ll only feel that way until this weekend when I’m suffering for my Lent choice. I’d better make it a good one.)
As I have pondered the plethora of things that would be beneficial to my mind, my health, and my spirit to get rid of for the next 40 days, I noticed that it was starting to feel like I was making New Year’s Resolutions (something to which I am quite opposed). So I thought about it, and thought… and I decided to do something that will benefit all three; something that will be very difficult for me but something that I know will calm my mind, body, and spirit. I read up on Lent and got into the real spirit of the whole thing.
I’m going to give up a sort of obsession of mine…guilt. Guilt has been a part of me for as long as I can remember. I am guilty of all manner of “atrocities” and I beat myself up over them daily (hourly is more accurate).
I am naturally prone to guilt to due a bit of perfectionism and OCD but I have to admit that it has become exhausting as of late. I feel guilt about everything! Are my children ok? Am I doing enough? Am I doing too much? Did I workout today? What did I eat? How clean is my house? I’d better get back to college asap. I forgot to dry that last load of laundry! My kids need a healthier snack. I really need to wash all of the windows. How much water have I had to drink? I’d better floss because we all know flossing is the key to health. And on and on and on I go. I even feel guilty for relaxing these days! It’s really gone past healthy.
I have been a worrier all of my life and the guilt ties in nicely with said worry so I just adopted them both as a sort of package deal. Well…I’m done! For the next 40 days I will work on just enjoying my life. I will work out when I can fit it in and when it sounds good, I will not berate myself for that last load of unfinished laundry or forgetting to return my library books on time. I will drink water when I think about it and my kids will probably have a few snacks that are less than healthy. But I’m not going to work myself up about these things, I am going to realize that this is life and it is messy and I’m doing my best.
So, what are you giving up for Lent? I hope it’s something that will resonate with you and bring you closer to who you really want to be.
Hi peeps! I was thinking today during my meditation and Pilates that I’m always trying to attain happiness and I work at feeling well every day. I realize also as I watch all of the sickness around me lately during this cold/flu season how much our bodies and spirits are connected. When one suffers, they both suffer. For this reason I would suggest that we need to keep both in optimum health. Easier said than done, I know. Find what works for you and do it! For some it is a rigid schedule of diet, exercise, and play. For some it is the comfort of a hobby. For others it is a good book as balm for the soul. Find what makes you smile. One of my greatest joys in life is music…nothing motivates or heals me quite the way music can. So today on this awesome Monday I want to post this song that motivates me to be who I am, for although I am always working to be better, I am also great today! I am a work in progress. Today I feel this: “This is my life. My energy. My soul. And it’s beautiful. I know that it is.”